“For every minute of anger you have, we have lost sixty seconds of happiness” – Dr. Seuss
Mencapai Kebahagiaan adalah puncak impian, but it often feels difficult to understand. Banyak yang terjebak pada pencariannya dan cuma menghasilkan kebahagiaan semu yang tidak kontinu.
Dalam upaya menemukan bentuk kestabilan dari namanya kebahagian, muncullah beberapa hasil penelitian dan riset tentang kebahagian, among them :
1. About half of our happiness levels can be controlled
According to The How of Happiness by researcher Sonja Lyubomirsky, around 40 percent of our happiness is under our control. 60 the other percent is determined by biological set points and recent life events.
We are all born with a different temperament and, all others are equal, have a tendency to maintain a certain level of happiness throughout our lives, high or low.
Some people do “born happier” than others, think of smiling babies versus fussy babies. Life events like marriage, graduated from college, or getting a promotion can affect our level of happiness, but the effect diminishes over time in a process known as “hedonic adaptation.”
What was new and interesting yesterday became “normal” today. However, we can reduce the power of hedonic adaptation by intentionally practicing new attitudes and behaviors every day.
2. A happy life is different from a meaningful life
A researcher named Roy Baumeister has compared people's perceptions about happiness versus meaningfulness.
There is quite a lot of overlap between these two things: People who see their lives mean they will feel happier, and vice versa. But there are also differences: Happiness seems to be a temporary state whereas meaningfulness lasts longer.
We experience happiness in the present when our needs are met, while meaning involves tying together the past, now, and the future in ways that make sense and strengthen our positive attributes. For example, having more money might make you a little happier, but whether it makes your life more meaningful depends on how you react to it.
3. Quality relationships make us happier
Harvard University psychiatrist Robert Waldinger conducted multi-generation studies over the years 75 year against students at Harvard and people from the poorest neighborhoods in Boston to determine the causes of health and happiness.
He found that the quality of the relationship was strongly linked to happiness. ,
The fact that having just one relationship with someone who is stable and caring consistently can make a lot of difference, lonely people will feel less happy and have worse health.
Having many acquaintances or having a relationship with an unreliable partner doesn't make people happier, namun orang-orang dengan ikatan sosial berkualitas tinggi adalah yang paling bahagia.
4. Happy people are more successful
New research shows that happier people are more productive at work, and more creative and energetic than unhappy colleagues.
A recent study by economists at the University of Warwick found that interventions at work to increase happiness make people 12 percent more productive. In another study, they found that employees were not happy 10 percent more unproductive.
Researcher Shawn Achor claimed in his TEDx speech that success is not what makes us happy, but it is happiness that makes us successful.
Optimism is the greatest predictor of success as an entrepreneur, help you tolerate difficult times and maintain your vision, even when things don't go as expected.
According to Achor, “Only 25 percent of job success is based on IQ. Seventy-five percent is about how your brain believes your behavior, connect with other people, and managing stress.”
Five paths of happiness
Researchers have found that practicing certain actions, deliberately looking for positive states of mind, and improving the quality of our relationships can make us happier.
Happiness can be maintained with the consistency of our habits from time to time, there are five paths of happiness that you can apply in life.
- Enjoy your daily experience. Stop from activities for a moment to enjoy the scent of flowers, looking at the flying birds, or pay attention to other small things.
- Engage in meaningful volunteer activities. Research shows that giving to others can make givers and recipients feel happier (and seeing people who are less fortunate can make you more grateful for what you have).
- Find a more optimistic perspective. Is there a way to see your life with more hope or appreciation? Can you focus on your strengths and achievements rather than regretting your failure.
- Practice to be grateful. Research shows that writing a daily or weekly thank you diary or writing a letter of appreciation can improve your mood and health.
- Pray. The process of worship can change areas of the brain associated with managing stress and regulating mood. Long-term worship is better able to find and maintain positive conditions such as joy and sorrow. Study by Richard Davidson and colleagues found that worship has also increased brain activity in fields related to happiness.